REALITY VERSUS REALITY SHOWS??

So there is reality and there are reality shows.Reality is the life we live now and here,where we work,we go to school,we hustle and we get broke.Reality TV is where things are a fantasy.The kind of life i want to live but i won't get there if am seated all day keeping up with the kardashians,the rich kids of Beverly hills and Partying on.I won't lie am addicted to reality TV.My dad hates it but i can't help it but be glued to the screen and watch a bunch of people live this life that looks so glamorous and amazing.It's like my own personal fantasy of the life i want.I can almost imagine myself attending those fancy parties in Morocco on Party On or be born in a famous Kardashian family but hell that is not my life.The reality of life is i wake up,open my eyes look around and think am not going to be handed things on a silver platter.I have to get out of bed and work and make my future or else i will have a very bleak one.So reality TV shows just present the life we wish we had and you can get lost in it for a few hours until you realize you have work tomorrow or go to class which is the real deal.So what is our reality as real humans??....and not robots.Which to totally digress,am i the only one who finds it funny that social sites ask me if am a robot and typing in a number or a bunch of words makes me human again?So back to the topic of our reality,it's the fact that we have to make our own destiny and future.We have to make our own legacy,leave a mark in the world.I wanna be Wangari Maathai who is forever remembered for speaking against environmental delinquency in Kenya.She will forever be on people's lips for something that totally counts.So at my young age i wonder what will be my mark?What will people remember me for?Will it be good or bad?I hope to make my signature move and have my name on a metal of any kind or paper because that my dear friends is the reality.

SHAKE THE DUST AND STEP ON IT!!

So its been a while since i sat on my writing chair.....oh! yes i do have have a writing chair and told you something i think you should know.Reason been alot has been going on in my life and i needed a break but now i have a new lease of life and i look at it very differently.Things have changed alot,my fairy tale belief of relationships has dwindled,faded and even changed.That should give you a sneak peak into what i mean when i say things have changed.The life i know live is a life centered on me,loving me,taking care of me,learning about me.I sound a bit selfish don't i??But before you judge me think about it. Am only twenty, self discovery is still a path i'm undertaking so why would i be thinking about someone else.Am still learning.Back in high school in one of those talks where we used to gather in the State House school hall with our tiny note books and pens eager to listen to the motivational speaker of the day.I heard a story from one of those speakers that has inspired me since then.There was a farmer who had a donkey as he rode one day through the fields with his donkey,suddenly it fell into a dry well.It was the only donkey he owned and he looked down into the well with dismay not knowing what to do.Luckily his donkey was not hurt but he had to find a way to get it out of the well.He tried reaching out for the animal's rope to pull it out but it did not work.He tried getting into the well to push it out it out but that turned out to be pretty difficult.As the sun set on the green fields with blooming maize combs everywhere he left and went home frustrated.On the next day he resolved to bury the donkey because  there was no way of getting it out of the well.He took the shovel he had carried and began to throw chunks of soil into the well.Then he noticed something very unusual,every time he threw soil into the well it would fall onto the donkey's back.The donkey would shake the dust off its back and step on it.The donkey clearly did not want to be buried alive.He continued to throw in more soil and the donkey shook the dust and stepped on it.The farmer called his friends to come see and help him throw in more soil.In a few hours the well was full of soil but instead of a buried donkey the animal was standing on top of the well.The farmer was re united with his donkey and did not loose what he had instead he got it.I know you are wondering what the moral of my story is?Every dark,impossible,doubtful,discouraging,self esteem stealing moment is that moment in the dark well that the donkey was in.Every moment you encourage yourself,you believe in yourself,you genuinely smile,you love yourself,you look at yourself in the mirror and say hi beautiful or hi handsome is that soil been thrown into the well.It is your stepping stone to self love, self discovery, writing your own story of success, your own love story,living your life to the fullest.Dark moments will come n go.Moments when you think you are not good enough will come n go. But you can choose to love yourself and get encouraged and not give up.So as you experience life with its good n bad, remember to always shake the dust and step on it.