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THE BEAUTY OF FRIENDSHIP

There is something about having a friend to talk to that just makes life so much better.The ability to share and express opinions,thoughts and experiences without been judged in such a comfortable and relaxed environment gives me somewhat of an inner peace and a feeling of reassurance that life is still worth living.They comfort me and keep me going no matter what position and place i'm at in my life.For every person there is an experience that teaches what having a good and loyal friend is.For me it was a loss of someone really close n dear to me,someone that i treasured so much and the way my friends rallied behind me just listened to my crying and whining was something that i will never forget.Their comfort,love and support kept me going.I love that i can be myself around them.Just be my crazy random self without judgement.They amaze me.Best thing is all of us are that one crazy friend in the group so when you hang out with us it's chilling with silly fun loving young ladies.We get each other.We cover each other's imperfections.It's a blessing that we have each other and i would not choose my friends any differently.Who we are and what we do is determined by the people we associate with and for me this is a such a great positive influence.Today take time to appreciate a friend,a companion,that one person you can't live without.For all those i consider friends i can't imagine life without you guys and am really grateful to have you.

WORRY....YAY OR NEIGH????

So i worry, sometimes, okay maybe alot. But everyone worries right? About the future, about tomorrow, about money and family. So much to worry about yet so little time to do anything about it. We spend time thinking, planning, strategizing about current and future events. It's interesting to note how much we worry about a future we don't know if we will see. About tomorrow that we are not assured of, This post is a reflection of all the friends that i have lost in the past few years, how their loss was unexpected, sudden, unplanned for. Loss especially of a loved one is really hard to deal with, it is confusing and leaves more questions than answers. Sometimes you are left with regret, the fact that you never got to say goodbye or spend that date you kept planning over the phone. The procrastination eats you and turns into guilt because you know you had a chance to say goodbye but you thought you had time so instead you pushed and pushed until they were no more. The news struck you so hard and you could barely hold back your tears as you were told over the phone. Then you realize that date you really were planning to have isn't going to happen. So why worry?Instead do. Worry is most times associated with fear, so what are you afraid of? Let me borrow some advice i heard over the radio today, that which you are afraid of,do it. And from experience it does bring peace. Worry is a prison that just chains you without much achievement. It holds you from achieving and believing in yourself. Don't worry just believe. So why worry while you can pray???

So instead of worrying about the future enjoy the present, your current situation is worth more than a future you don't know about.                                                                                                                   

Feel free to share your stories of worry and leave comments......                                                                  

THE REVOLUTION

 We were having a discussion the other day with my family about social media and all this kinds of cool technology that are coming up.My dad was basically complaining that i'm on my phone too much and my cousin is always on the laptop. Which got me thinking,is the essence of social media to bring us together in terms of communication or does it pull us apart from the people that are right there in front of us?I won't lie to you once am on my phone it's like am in other world and with my nocturnal friends whom i love very much, i can sleep very late just chatting and literally say nothing to mum or dad who is sitted on the couch right there next to me.We are ever on skype,tweeting,changing our status on Facebook and basically posting on instagram which is my current addiction but does it leave us ignoring the world around us???I was on a road trip the other day with my friends and they were joking that if an accident was to happen i would definitely be on instagram first posting photos about it and tweeting rather than informing the authorities.However if you seriously think about it that is who we have become, a society enslaved by technology.Am not saying technology is bad it's actually amazing but when will we learn to say stop and put boundaries?When was the last time you sat down with your family and actually found out how they are doing??Put away your phone and just sat down and had a face to face conversation with the person seated right next to you.Are we a generation that does not put emphasis on human contact while in real sense it's all we ever need to feel okay.Maybe the world needs a little bit more real hugs and less emoticons.A little bit more of real smiles than smiley faces on a screen.Come out from your cocoon of social media and connect with the real world,we need you.

REALITY VERSUS REALITY SHOWS??

So there is reality and there are reality shows.Reality is the life we live now and here,where we work,we go to school,we hustle and we get broke.Reality TV is where things are a fantasy.The kind of life i want to live but i won't get there if am seated all day keeping up with the kardashians,the rich kids of Beverly hills and Partying on.I won't lie am addicted to reality TV.My dad hates it but i can't help it but be glued to the screen and watch a bunch of people live this life that looks so glamorous and amazing.It's like my own personal fantasy of the life i want.I can almost imagine myself attending those fancy parties in Morocco on Party On or be born in a famous Kardashian family but hell that is not my life.The reality of life is i wake up,open my eyes look around and think am not going to be handed things on a silver platter.I have to get out of bed and work and make my future or else i will have a very bleak one.So reality TV shows just present the life we wish we had and you can get lost in it for a few hours until you realize you have work tomorrow or go to class which is the real deal.So what is our reality as real humans??....and not robots.Which to totally digress,am i the only one who finds it funny that social sites ask me if am a robot and typing in a number or a bunch of words makes me human again?So back to the topic of our reality,it's the fact that we have to make our own destiny and future.We have to make our own legacy,leave a mark in the world.I wanna be Wangari Maathai who is forever remembered for speaking against environmental delinquency in Kenya.She will forever be on people's lips for something that totally counts.So at my young age i wonder what will be my mark?What will people remember me for?Will it be good or bad?I hope to make my signature move and have my name on a metal of any kind or paper because that my dear friends is the reality.

SHAKE THE DUST AND STEP ON IT!!

So its been a while since i sat on my writing chair.....oh! yes i do have have a writing chair and told you something i think you should know.Reason been alot has been going on in my life and i needed a break but now i have a new lease of life and i look at it very differently.Things have changed alot,my fairy tale belief of relationships has dwindled,faded and even changed.That should give you a sneak peak into what i mean when i say things have changed.The life i know live is a life centered on me,loving me,taking care of me,learning about me.I sound a bit selfish don't i??But before you judge me think about it. Am only twenty, self discovery is still a path i'm undertaking so why would i be thinking about someone else.Am still learning.Back in high school in one of those talks where we used to gather in the State House school hall with our tiny note books and pens eager to listen to the motivational speaker of the day.I heard a story from one of those speakers that has inspired me since then.There was a farmer who had a donkey as he rode one day through the fields with his donkey,suddenly it fell into a dry well.It was the only donkey he owned and he looked down into the well with dismay not knowing what to do.Luckily his donkey was not hurt but he had to find a way to get it out of the well.He tried reaching out for the animal's rope to pull it out but it did not work.He tried getting into the well to push it out it out but that turned out to be pretty difficult.As the sun set on the green fields with blooming maize combs everywhere he left and went home frustrated.On the next day he resolved to bury the donkey because  there was no way of getting it out of the well.He took the shovel he had carried and began to throw chunks of soil into the well.Then he noticed something very unusual,every time he threw soil into the well it would fall onto the donkey's back.The donkey would shake the dust off its back and step on it.The donkey clearly did not want to be buried alive.He continued to throw in more soil and the donkey shook the dust and stepped on it.The farmer called his friends to come see and help him throw in more soil.In a few hours the well was full of soil but instead of a buried donkey the animal was standing on top of the well.The farmer was re united with his donkey and did not loose what he had instead he got it.I know you are wondering what the moral of my story is?Every dark,impossible,doubtful,discouraging,self esteem stealing moment is that moment in the dark well that the donkey was in.Every moment you encourage yourself,you believe in yourself,you genuinely smile,you love yourself,you look at yourself in the mirror and say hi beautiful or hi handsome is that soil been thrown into the well.It is your stepping stone to self love, self discovery, writing your own story of success, your own love story,living your life to the fullest.Dark moments will come n go.Moments when you think you are not good enough will come n go. But you can choose to love yourself and get encouraged and not give up.So as you experience life with its good n bad, remember to always shake the dust and step on it.  

SKELETONS IN MY CLOSET

So we all have something we wouldn't like the rest of the world to know about.A secret perhaps,a fetish maybe or a habit we would rather keep to ourselves.We guard the secret so closely and jealously because of the embarrassment it might cause us or the problems we might experience if our friends,family or colleagues find out.The problems with secrets though is that they eat us away gnawing our souls,leaving us looking over  our shoulders so self conscious because we think someday someone will find out something they are not supposed to know about.I get the whole theory on privacy,but seriously what is the point of keeping a secret if all you are going to do is live with regret and insecurity.People will judge you despite doing good or bad so sometimes you just have to let your guard down and show the whole world who you are.This whole thing of faking it till you make it doesn't make sense to me because the moment people realize you are not who really claim to be they will never take you seriously.That means you loose your credibility and you begin to look like a scam.All what you say from that day forward will be considered a lie and many will doubt you.So forget that secrets are meant to be kept,forget secret identities....trust me those are only cool in movies and show the world who you really are.Don't be afraid to express yourself,to show your true identity because you never know it might be just what the world needs to be a better place.I know we all have role models,people we want to be like or wish we were.Role models are meant to be admired,pick a few things here and there that they do that you like but never to copy and paste and be everything they are.You are your own person,with a personality,likes and dislikes,unique in your own way so why give up all that to try and become someone else?Be proud of your own person and embrace it and watch the rest of the world follow suit....that's all my thoughts for today.